I have to admit that I got a little bit embarrass when my 3.5 year old daughter was still not potty trained. I was embarassed because it showed my lack of ability. Am I lazy? Do I lack patience? After all, kids her age have been probably potty trained since they were 1 or 2. I felt like working mothers were sneering at me. If they can potty train their children why is it so difficult for a stay-at-home mom such as I?
By the time my daughter turned 2, I have already done enough research to begin her potty training. I did the following:
1. read plethora of articles about potty training,
2. asked other mothers how they potty trained their kids,
3. signed up to receive the potty training video in the mail from Pull-Ups.
4. purchased a potty with her then current character obsession, Lightning Mcqueen, and
5. took her to the bathroom with me when I pee to show her that I do it, too.
I was ready or so I thought. She resisted. She hated it. She didn’t even want to sit on it.
I even tried methods other moms suggested but no luck. The potty training was abandoned.
I scoured mommy forums once more, watched videos and read some more potty training articles. Fast forward 6 months later, I found a YouTube video who had her daughter sit on the potty while watching her favorite show. I tried it and it worked. She sat on the potty while playing games on the laptop. It was a success because she finally sat on the potty but she sat there playing like it was a chair! She didn’t pee, whatsoever. Potty training was abandoned was more.
I wasn’t successful because maybe I didn’t have a strategy on how to potty train her. Perhaps, I didn’t know the crap I was doing? However, last week I came across this article – link! - on how to potty train a toddler in 2 days! I thought it was crazy but the author did potty train her 3 kids using her method but, most importantly, her approach has a strategy. So I thought what the heck, I gave it a shot. Her approach is simple and this is what I did:
1. I had my daughter wear her current character obsession, Dora, undewear instead of having her naked from the waist down as the article suggested.
2. I had her sit on the potty every 10-minutes. The article suggested a timer which was perfect because I already use a timer when she takes baths. She thinks it’s a game. I didn’t force her to sit if she didn’t want to. I just reset the timer for another 10 minutes.
3. I had her sit on the potty for 2 minutes or until she wants to sit there. I had a 2-minute timer, as well.
At the beginning of the first day, she was excited because she probably thought it was a game. By the middle of the day, she got the routine. Whenever the timer went off she knew it was time to sit on the potty. There were many accidents and I changed her underwear 10-15 times. When I saw her poopy-face, I grabbed her and put on her the potty. She was so proud of herself afterwards and I had her flush her poop away.
There were many resistance during the second day but she was already sitting on the potty on her own without the timer. It seemed like she sat on the potty whenever she felt the urge. She peed and pooped on the potty that day. There were still some accidents; I changed her underwear maybe 3-5 times.
On the third day, I am proud to say my 3.5 year old daughter is potty trained and also has bladder control at night. No accidents. I am happy.
So the moral of the story:
1. Don’t compare your child with other children. Let her/him guide you. So far this is true for me.
2. Don’t stress about it. Being a mom is stressful enough.
3. Don’t question your capabilities as a mom. You are doing your best.
Thank you Carrie Lauth of Mom Advice for sharing your potty training method.